As leaders in the fashion industry, we often walk a delicate line between being approachable and authoritative, driven and empathetic.
But what happens when the feedback you receive crosses from 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘮 to something that feels more like 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘢𝘤𝘬?
I’ve worked with so many leaders who, like you, feel crushed under the weight of performance reviews that target their character rather than their achievements.
When the feedback feels more about 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 than 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨, it can be disorienting, painful, and even leave you questioning your own abilities.
Here’s how to handle it:
𝗦𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗜𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸
It’s tough, but remember: feedback is not a reflection of your worth as a person. It's an assessment of your actions or how others perceive your behaviors in a specific context.
Just because someone labels you as “pushy” doesn’t mean it’s true across the board. It's a lens, not a full picture of who you are.
𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗥𝘂𝘀𝗵 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗔𝗿𝗲
It’s natural to want to fix yourself when you feel misunderstood, but you don’t have to conform to someone else’s idea of how you should be.
𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸
Ask yourself: Does this feedback truly reflect how I want to show up as a leader?
Is it in line with my values?
𝗦𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗖𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗝𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗩𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
When the feedback feels harsh, try to engage in a constructive dialogue.
Ask for specific examples of the behavior being referenced, and explore solutions with your team or manager on how to align expectations moving forward.
You’ll likely find that the feedback is less about you and more about perceptions - and that can be worked through.
𝗨𝘀𝗲 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗴𝘁𝗵𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗥𝗲𝗳𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
In the fashion industry, empathy and fun are incredibly valuable leadership traits.
Use those qualities to approach the feedback with understanding, even if it’s tough.
Express that you’re open to growth, but that you also value a two-way conversation about how your leadership can work for the team - and not just what’s wrong.
𝗜𝗻𝘃𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗪𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴
When feedback hits hard, it’s important to care for your emotional health.
If you feel like this is overwhelming or crippling, therapy or coaching can be an excellent way to unpack these feelings.
You deserve to be in a space where you feel supported and can grow as a leader without losing yourself in the process.
Remember, leadership is a journey, not a destination.
The path may not always be easy, and feedback may not always be fair.
But you can evolve, find balance, and rise above challenges - without compromising who you are.
If you’re navigating tough leadership feedback and need support to move forward, I’m here to help.
Let’s connect.